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Internet Safety Guide for Kids

By Rebecca Edwards

Researcher & Writer

Published on October 05, 2020

Last Updated: 3 months ago

October is Bullying Prevention Month. If you didn't find everything you need in this guide, we have a quick read for you with more internet safety advice.

If you thought it was tough to keep kids off the internet before COVID-19, it’s almost impossible now.

Between mandated online school and playdates via video chat, chances are you and your kids are spending a lot more time online in quarantine than ever before. For some, it may be the first time you’ve explored this new frontier with your little one.

Unfortunately, it’s not all academia and family connections—the internet can be a risky place, especially for children.

But you don’t have to go it alone. SafeWise has identified the top online threats to kids and tips for keeping kids safe, especially during the novel coronavirus pandemic.

Online Concerns During the Coronavirus Outbreak

We’ve put together a special section tackling specific concerns you and your kids might be facing now that we’re living a lot more of our lives online. Even though all of our previous tips to keep your kids safe online still apply, this unusual time called for some exclusive attention. We tailored our tips to help keep your kids safe during online learning. We’ve also put together a checklist for easy reference.

Top Online Threats for Kids

There are a number of potential dangers in cyberspace, but these are the top online security risks that most kids face.

1. Cyberbullying: Almost 34% of kids age 12–17 have been cyberbullied at some point in their life, and 11.5% have bullied someone else online. Cyberbullying is any aggressive, threatening, or mean-spirited activity conducted via electronic communication (email, social media posts, text messages, etc.). Girls are more likely to be the victims of cyberbullying, and more boys admit to bullying others online.¹

2. Online predators: Adults who use the internet to entice children for sexual or other types of abusive exploitation are considered online predators. Child victims can be as young as 1 or as old as 17. When it comes to online enticement, girls make up the majority (78%) of child victims—while the majority (82%) of online predators are male. And 98% of online predators have never met their child targets in real life.²

KISG Threat Icons - inappropriate content

3. Exposure to inappropriate content: Inappropriate content is one of the most common online threats that kids encounter. Everything from vulgar language and hate speech to graphically violent or sexual images can have a harmful effect on an impressionable child. Over 55% of tweens (kids age 10–12) have been exposed to violent content on the internet, and nearly 60% have come across sexually explicit words or images.³

NOTE: For the purposes of this guide, we’re focusing on the earliest prevention possible. While these internet safety tips for kids and parents can be applicable to anyone, we’ve selected steps to help protect children from ages 5 through 12.

How to Keep Your Kids Safe Online During Coronavirus Quarantine

Whether you and your kiddos are internet pros or getting online for the first time due to stay-at-home orders, we’ve got the tips you need to navigate this strange new world safely.

Tips for Safe Online Learning

Just because your child is directed to go online for school, it doesn’t mean there still aren’t potential dangers lurking. These best practices that will minimize your child’s exposure to online risks no matter what platform or software their school is using.

1. Make sure websites are secure

You can instantly tell if any website is safe by looking for one letter: “s.” Every website address starts with the letters “http,” but you know a site is secure when you see “https.” That means the website itself is taking measures to keep users and their information secure while they use the site.

If you’re directed to any websites for school or entertainment that don’t have that extra “s” at the beginning of the address, steer clear.

2. Guard personal information

This can get tricky when your child needs to be identified for schoolwork or classroom discussions, but personal details need to be guarded closely.

Chances are, your child probably already has a student identification number. Those kinds of identifiers are a great way to protect personal details from leaking on the internet.

None of the following information should be used to identify your child in class, on a list of posted grades, or in an online discussion.

Full first and last name
Social security number
Birthdate
Address
Phone number
Photograph

Your little one should also have a secure username and password to log into courses, lectures, and assignments.

3. Set up parental controls

You don’t have to purchase parental control software to protect your child during online learning. There are already a lot of helpful tools built into your device hardware, software, and internet browser.

Find tutorials here to help you maximize built-in privacy settings and content blockers.

If you want the extra reassurance of parental control software, we tested a bunch of them and picked our favorites. Almost every brand we recommend has a free version available, so you can probably upgrade from built-in parental controls without reaching for your wallet.

4. Keep everything updated

It seems too simple to be so effective, but one of the best ways to keep kids safe online is to make sure that all devices, software, and firmware are up to date.

Updates can seem like a pain, but one of the biggest reasons companies come out with new versions is to deploy security patches that address the most recent and innovative threats out there.

Plus, an outdated operating system or old version of software can render your parental controls and privacy settings useless.

Expert Recommendation

“The website Teacherspayteachers is a wealth of printable and electronic teaching resources that are legit and vetted very well.”Kirsten Bergh, Online Elementary School Teacher

Prepare Your Kids for Success with Online Safety Tools

Cybersmart Detectives

Digital Citizenship Resources

Family Contract for Online Safety

FBI Press Release about Online Child Exploitation Due to COVID-19

Download our Video Chat Safety Guide

Download our Video Chat Safety Guide

Tools to Make the Most of Stay-at-Home Learning

Printable Daily Schedules

Library of Congress Webinars

Kids' Authors Read-Alouds

How to Protect Your Kids from Cyberbullying

1. Know the risks: Understand what cyberbullying is, where and how it happens, and how to spot it. Explain that online bullies can act friendly at first, but also encourage your child to be on the lookout for any interactions that make them feel bad, scared, or sad.

2. Talk about it: Have ongoing discussions with your child. Talk about what cyberbullying is and what types of communication are acceptable and unacceptable. Make sure your child knows that it’s safe for them to talk to you if something makes them uncomfortable.

4. Set boundaries: Put time limits on screen time. Include all online activities—from homework to playing games and surfing the web. Restrict social media access and email accounts, and set rules for any IM, texting, etc. Let your kids know you’ll be checking in regularly.

3. Keep a watchful eye: Place the computer in a common room and monitor all screen time. Use a shared email account, and if you let kids interact on social media, make sure you have full access to manage their accounts. Parental control software is another great way to stay in the know.

5. Build a network (IRL): They don’t say it takes a village for nothing. The more people you have looking out for your kid online, the more likely you are to keep them safe. Know your kids’ friends and their parents. Enlist support from school, sports, and church leaders.

6. Be prepared to respond: Don’t wait until the heat of the moment to come up with your gameplan. In case your kid does get bullied online, learn what the proper responses are so you can keep your emotions in check and help your child deal with what they’re going through.

Steps to Take If Your Child Has Been Bullied

Pay attention: Look for signs of cyberbullying, like spending more time online or texting, hiding the screen from others, emotional responses to online interactions, and sadness or seclusion.
Ask questions: Gently ask your child what’s going on and how they feel about it. Find out if they’ve responded to the bully and what that response was.
Acknowledge their feelings: Your child may feel frightened, angry, sad, or even betrayed if the bully is someone they trusted. Let them know it’s okay to feel whatever they’re feeling.
Block the bully: Immediately block (or “unfriend”) the abuser. Use tools like site blockers and privacy settings as extra layers of protection.
Report it: Alert website and email administrators to the bully. Most social media platforms offer options to report a user or flag dangerous posts. If appropriate, report the abusive activity to school or law enforcement officials.
Assess the damage: If your child’s emotional response is extreme and protective measures don’t seem to help, seek the help of a professional.
Enlist reinforcements: Talk to other adults who can help protect your child (other parents, teachers, school administrators, coaches, etc.) and bolster your child’s positive friendships.

What to Do If Your Child Is the Bully

Look: If your child sets up new email or social media accounts without your knowledge, makes snarky remarks while online, or starts to hide their online activity, they could be picking on someone.
Listen: If you’re concerned, gently broach the topic with your child and then allow them the room to answer. Be open-minded and don’t blame. Bullies are usually in some kind of pain as well.
Monitor: Double your efforts to track your child’s online activity. If you’re not already using parental control software, now is the time to start using it.
Support: Encourage your child to deal with their feelings and the reasons they’re engaging in this behavior. Suggest that they apologize to the kids they’ve hurt, and help them do it.
Get help: It can be hard to identify why your child starting acting out in this manner. Seek professional help, and if the bullying crosses lines at school (or legally), inform the appropriate authorities and ask for resources to address the situation.

How to Protect Your Kids from Online Predators

1. Understand the danger: Learn what online predators are, where and how predators attack, and how to spot it. Explain that contact from strangers is never okay.

2. Guide online behaviors: Talk about what types of online interactions are okay and what aren’t. Discuss how to recognize signs of trouble and how to ask for help.

3. Rein in digital cameras: Control access to digital cameras and photo apps on every device. Make sure your kids can’t upload or download photos without your permission.

4. Monitor online activity: Keep the computer in a common room, set limits on screen time, use a shared email account, and put parental controls (like filters and apps) in place.

5. Keep kids out of dangerous places: Talk about the risks of chat rooms and social networks, and set up rules and time limits if you allow your kids to use them. Always follow age restrictions for websites and apps.

6. Don’t let your guard down: Know that “safe” places still require vigilance. There are kid-focused chat rooms and games where predators may pose as children.

Steps to Take If Your Child Has Been Targeted Online

Let your child know it’s not their fault.
Cut off communication with the predator.
Change online credentials, including screen names, usernames, and passwords.
Save screenshots or copies of messages and images from the predator.
Report the activity to website administrators and law enforcement.
Seek professional help for your child as appropriate.

Safety Tips for Kids

Never share personal information online.
Don’t respond to emails, texts, or messages from strangers.
Don’t post or share photos online.
Don’t click links, open attachments, or accept gifts from someone you don’t know.
Never agree to meet someone you met online.
Let your parents or another trusted adult know if you need help.

How to Protect Your Kids from Inappropriate Online Content

1. Teach kids how to navigate the internet: Talk about proper online etiquette, how to enter safe search terms, how to identify a secure website (https), and when to ask an adult for help.

2. Let kids know what to watch for: Teach them that bad stuff can come from many sources, including email and direct messages. Talk about inappropriate websites, pop-up ads, and when and where it’s okay to click on something.

3. Explain email safety: Make sure kids know not to click on things or open attachments in emails and not to respond to messages from people they don’t know. Have them ask an adult before they download anything.

4. Set up firewalls and content blockers: Use the built-in safety applications that come on your devices and add more to be extra safe. Block all websites that aren’t rated safe for children. Use a content filter or firewall that is designed to protect children from harmful content.

5. Be prepared: Have a plan in place in case your child is exposed to graphic content online. Know what the proper responses are so you can focus on helping your child manage their feelings.

Steps to Take If Your Child Has Been Exposed to Inappropriate Content

Don’t

Freak out.
React emotionally.
Shame your child.
Scare your child.
Blame your child

Do

Stay calm.
Be patient.
Find the source of the content.
Block access to dangerous or confusing sites.
Help your child sort out their feelings.
Restore a sense of safety.
Keep the conversation going.

How Much Is Your State Doing to Keep Kids Safe Online?

US map showing grade for internet safety laws

To grade each state, SafeWise looked at laws for both sexting and cyberbullying. Points were assigned to states based on the types of laws currently on the books and the consequences for violating those laws. If a state has a law proposed, partial points were granted. School policies and consequences were also factors. Letter grades were determined based on the total points, with higher points earning higher grades.

State-by-State Online Safety Laws

State	Letter Grade	Laws Specify Cyberbullying	Consequences for Online Harassment	Schools Discipline Cyberbullying	Discipline for Off-Campus Offenses	Laws Address Sexting	Misdemeanor Penalties for Sexting	Felony Penalties for Sexting
Alabama	C	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO	YES
Alaska	C	NO	YES	YES	NO	NO	YES	NO
Arizona	B	YES	YES	YES	NO	YES	YES	NO
Arkansas	A	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO
California	B	YES	YES	YES	YES	proposed	NO	NO
Colorado	B	YES	YES	YES	NO	YES	YES	NO
Connecticut	A	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO
Delaware	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Florida	A	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES
Georgia	A	YES	YES	YES	proposed	YES	YES	YES
Hawaii	B	YES	YES	YES	NO	YES	YES	NO
Idaho	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Illinois	B	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO
Indiana	B	YES	YES	YES	NO	YES	YES	NO
Iowa	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Kansas	A	YES	YES	YES	NO	YES	YES	YES
Kentucky	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Louisiana	B	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO
Maine	D	YES	NO	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Maryland	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Massachusetts	B	YES	YES	YES	YES	proposed	NO	NO
Michigan	C	YES	YES	NO	YES	NO	NO	NO
Minnesota	C	YES	NO	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO
Mississippi	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Missouri	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Montana	D	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO	NO
Nebraska	B	YES	NO	YES	proposed	YES	NO	YES
Nevada	C	YES	YES	NO	NO	YES	YES	NO
New Hampshire	D	YES	NO	NO	YES	NO	NO	NO
New Jersey	B	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO
New Mexico	C	YES	NO	YES	NO	YES	NO	NO
New York	B	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO
North Carolina	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
North Dakota	B	YES	YES	YES	NO	YES	YES	NO
Ohio	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Oklahoma	B	YES	YES	YES	NO	YES	YES	NO
Oregon	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Pennsylvania	A	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO
Rhode Island	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	YES	NO	NO
South Carolina	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	proposed	NO	NO
South Dakota	A	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO
Tennessee	C	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO
Texas	A	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO
Utah	A	YES	YES	YES	NO	YES	YES	YES
Vermont	B	YES	YES	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO
Virginia	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Washington	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
West Virginia	C	YES	YES	YES	NO	YES	NO	NO
Wisconsin	D	NO	YES	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO
Wyoming	D	YES	NO	YES	NO	NO	NO	NO

More Resources to Help with Online Safety for Kids

This guide is the perfect starting point to make sure you know the basics for keeping kids safe on the internet. But online threats are constantly changing, and cybercriminals are getting more sophisticated. To help you stay ahead of the curve, here are some of the resources we recommend.

Internet Safety Classes and Workshops

State and Local Internet Safety Resources

Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force Program: State Chapter Directory
Office for Victims of Crime: Providers/Community Leaders
D.A.R.E.: Internet Safety

Tools to Keep Kids Safe Online

FBI Safe Online Surfing (for students and teachers, 3rd through 8th grade)
The Best Parental Control Apps and Software
Internet Safety 101: Rules ‘N Tools Checklist (for parents and educators)

More Educational and Support Resources

KidsHealth Internet Safety (for parents, kids, teens, and educators)
Internet Matters e-Safety Advice
Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds
SafeKids.com: Internet Safety by Age
Common Sense Media: Privacy and Internet Safety

Sources

1. Cyberbullying Research Center, “2016 Cyberbullying Data”
2. National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, “The Online Enticement of Children: An In-Depth Analysis of CyberTipline Reports”
3. Bark, “2018 Children and Teen Cyber Fact Sheet”
4. Cyberbullying Research Center, “State Sexting Laws”; Cyberbullying Research Center, “State Cyberbullying Laws”

Written by

Rebecca Edwards

Rebecca is the lead safety reporter and in-house expert for SafeWise.com. She has been a journalist and blogger for over 25 years, with a focus on home and community safety for the past six. Rebecca spends dozens of hours every month testing and evaluating security products and strategies. Her safety expertise is sought after by publications, broadcast journalists, non-profit organizations, podcasts, and more. You can find her work and contributions in places like TechCrunch, The Washington Post, The Chicago Tribune, HGTV, MSN, and an ever-growing library of radio and TV clips.

1 Comment

Saadia Umair – 80351/TCHR/SDK

our state should take serious actions against cyber bullying. It should be included in the law as well.